I used to think something was wrong with me.
I was always hungry.
I would finish one meal and already be planning the next.
It didn’t matter if I ate a salad, a sandwich, or a “balanced” dinner with protein, carbs, and veggies the gnawing feeling in my stomach (and in my mind) was always there.
It wasn’t just physical hunger either. It was cravings.
Constant, cravings.
And the worst part? I blamed myself for it.
I see my clients do that all the time too.
The Endless Cycle
Every new diet promised me the same thing: “Just stick to this and the weight will finally come off.”
So I tried:
Portion control.
Eating six small meals a day.
Balanced dieting.
Low-fat everything.
Tracking every bite in an app.
And yet, no matter what method I chose, the outcome was the same. For a week or two I could hang on. I’d be disciplined. I’d do everything “right.”
But the hunger never went away. The cravings never stopped.
So eventually, I’d break. I’d binge. I’d feel defeated. And then I’d tell myself the same story: “See? You’re just not strong enough. Other people can do this, but you can’t.”
It wasn’t just a diet failure it was an identity failure. Every attempt chipped away at my self worth.
Why Balanced Dieting Felt Impossible
The advice I kept hearing was, “Everything in moderation. Just have a little bit and you’ll be fine.”
Sounds great in theory.
But when your body is in constant craving mode, moderation feels like torture. It’s like telling someone gasping for air, “Just take smaller breaths.”
Balanced dieting was a mental prison for me. I was measuring, weighing, and worrying about food all day long.
Food became the center of my life not because I wanted it to, but because my body was screaming for more.
I didn’t fail because I was weak. I failed because the approach I was using didn’t address the real problem.
The Real Problem No One Talked About
Here’s what I eventually learned: hunger and cravings aren’t just about willpower. They’re about chemistry.
When your blood sugar is spiking and crashing all day, when your insulin is on overdrive, when your brain is addicted to quick hits of sugar of course you’re going to feel hungry all the time.
And that’s why all those “balanced” diets never worked for me.
They kept me on the blood sugar rollercoaster.
They never gave my body the chance to get stable, to actually feel full, and to break free from the constant craving cycle.
The Turning Point
The day things started to shift for me was the day I realized: I don’t need another “diet.” I need a reset.
I needed to stop trying to suffer my way through hunger and start addressing why my body felt like it was starving even when I was eating.
When I finally learned how to eat in a way that calmed my cravings, stabilized my hormones, and actually left me feeling satisfied, everything changed.
For the first time in years, food stopped controlling me. I could eat, enjoy, and move on. No obsession. No mental tug-of-war. No shame spiral when I inevitably “slipped.”
That’s when the weight started coming off. But more importantly that’s when I started getting my life back.
The Lesson
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve “tried everything before and still failed,” I want you to hear me clearly: you didn’t fail because you suck.
You failed because the strategies you were given were never designed to fix the root problem.
Once you quiet the cravings, balance your hormones, and finally feel satisfied consistency stops being so hard.
Progress becomes possible. And freedom from food obsession is absolutely within reach.